TungIT75,
First to your questions. Yes, you can manage the whole install process from your desktop/Laptop PC without connecting a Screen/Keyboard/Mouse to the XPEnology machine. That is the idea of IPMI, and well beyond that you can enter BIOS for the board using IPMI also, and of course login to the XPEnology command line (as you would on a SSH/Telnet session), you can even MAP a DVD/CD ROM drive from your laptop as if you had it connected to the XPEnology machine to install whatever, I think you can even do this from an ISO file without a DVD/CD Rom at all. So this LAN can only be used for that and will NOT show up in your OS installed (or in XPEnology in our case).
As for the other 2 LAN cards, they can "BOND" together. You can configure this in the Network section of DSM control panel, select both cards and choose Create BOND, then the type of bonding you want as explained forward, that is to make them work together at the same time with the same IP address. This works in two different Bonding modes (you choose);
1. Doubling the effective speed and balancing traffic between the two LAN cards. This is called Link aggregation, under standard IEEE802.3ad. I tis also called EtherChannel with LOAD BALANCING.
2. OR you can use the second LAN as backup, called active/standby in DSM, always connected but only working when the other fails. Say you have two routers and this way if one router fails, the other kicks in.
Otherwise you may use the second LAN as a second interface with different IP address and NO BONDING at all. Say you want to backup over the network to another machine and not use bandwidth from client PCs. This way you can have two different LAN networks for separate things, or simply two IP addresses within the same physical network.
Please note that to be able to use Link aggregation you MUST have a switch that supports it (802.3ad). Most home user switches DO NOT support this (802.3ad), even low end business switches do not support this. You can do failover/backup mode without anything else required. Same for using both LAN cards with different IP addresses, nothing is required.
I hope that helps
Daniel